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Divorce & Remarriage & MinisterArticle One: Jack’s Story Jack is a teenage preacher boy. He is on fire for God and has his purpose and direction for life all mapped out through prayer. He’s watching different pastors and their wives so he will find the best possible wife for his life of service with God. He notices some preacher’s wives are very out going but talk too much and get their husband’s in trouble from one church to another. He notices that some preacher’s wives can’t keep a confidence. So he determines to find a modest pretty girl who can keep confidences and keep their personal lives private.
Jack meets Jill. She fits all the qualifications for which he’s been looking. She’s very modest in dress, action, and language and quiet. She seems to love Jesus and appears to live a holy life. They date for only a short time and get married.
After marriage Jack notices that Jill is more naïve than holy. She’s been very sheltered and controlled. However, they seem happy. Jack loves her more than he can describe. Jill is very private with her thoughts and feelings but says she loves him too. After years of college for them both they begin the pastorate. God blesses them with a number of children.
God blesses enormously their ministry as Pastor and wife during the first five years with churches doubling and growing rapidly. However, the last five years God is not blessing as much. This confuses Jack because he is better at his trade and more experienced. He is working just as hard but with minimal blessings from God. Jack is careful not to neglect his wife and children because he has always made them a priority over his work and ministry. Jill seems absorbed in the kids for the first few years and seems to be doing her own things more and more. She’s always been a perfectionist. If its broken don’t repair it, just trash it. She’s never been very affectionate and just doesn’t seem interested in being very close.
One day Jill is in a panic and has to talk to Jack about something. She tells him that she loves him as her pastor. She says she loves him as a father. She says she will always love him as her friend. But that she has gotten entangled in a number of affairs and loves another and considers another married man as her husband and has for the past few years. No wonder God wasn’t blessing. This absolutely crushes Jack. He’s lost the love of his life and will most likely lose his ability to minister within his denomination. Now his love and life appear to be over. He promises everything to save the marriage and tries to protect his family and children from being destroyed but she will not repent or stop her unfaithfulness. She’s ready to start her life over and trash her husband and children. She wants to be free. She is filled with selfishness and stubbornness. She is almost proud of her ability to deceive and prides herself as an actress.
Jack has been the pastor to dozens of men whose wives had cheated on them. These big burley men were crying like babies. His heart went out to them one hundred percent. However, when he found out his wife had been cheating on him it was a thousand times worse than he could have ever imagined. He starts praying and fasting. He couldn’t sleep more than a few minutes each night. He was having chest pains and would have loved for God to take him on to heaven. However, God assured him that his children still needed him and that somehow he had more ministry ahead than in the past.
Jill would not stop her unfaithfulness so after several months of sleepless nights and losing an enormous amount of weight God said to him enough is enough. He resigned his church and she left permanently by her on choice. He focused on his children and healing. She had left him with all the children and bills so she could be free to start her life over.
Jack remained married until she demanded a divorce to marry a new lover. She made threats about the children and demanded a divorce so he gave her the divorce although he still loved her and prayed for her.
Jack remained single for a few years and most of the children were nearly grown. He was allowed to do interim work as a pastor but not pastor. When he started dating he was no longer allowed to preach or pastor. He remarried a few years later to a wonderful Christian lady with children. Her former husband had cheated on her too. She was very different than his former wife. She met and exceeded all his needs as a wife and ministry helper. Jack was a virgin when he married his former wife. Jack remained true to God while single and never left the church or ministry service doing what he was allowed to do to help. Jack was always a faithful husband to his one wife and a faithful servant to God. God bless these situations.
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